To distract ourselves during Covid, my walking partner and I challenged each other to pay attention to the simple pleasures in our lives. We noted how satisfying it is to slice into a perfectly ripe avocado or to slip between freshly laundered sheets on a well-made bed. It’s these little things that can get us through difficult times.
In his book titled The Book of Delights poet Ross Gay challenged himself to write one short essay per day on something he’d observed that delighted him. In the intro he says, “It didn’t take me long to learn that the discipline of writing these essays occasioned a kind of delight radar. Or maybe it was more like the development of a delight muscle. Something that implies that the more you study delight, the more delight there is to study. A month or two into this project delights were calling to me: Write about me! Write about me! I also learned this year that my delight grows – much like love and joy – when I share it.”
In other words, ‘what you focus on grows.’
So that’s what I’m going to do ~ share my simple pleasures (and delights!) and hope that more and more of them call to me.
In no particular order, here are a few:
- Nuzzling a kitten to my face and breathing it in.
- Hearing the laughter of children playing outside on summer evenings.
- Puppies. The full-body wiggle when they’re greeting you.
- Being notified by the library that a long awaited book has finally arrived.
- Cracking open a new book and sinking in for the evening.
- Hanging laundry out to dry on a breezy spring day.
- Chatting with cheery strangers when we’re both out walking.
- Discovering a gem of a book at a Little Free Library, or leaving a treasured book there and finding it gone the next time I’m checking out the selection.
- Seeing items get repurposed.
- Participating in discussions that dive deep.
- Discovering new products that tread lightly on the planet, or that eliminate plastic waste.
- Long, ambling beach walks.
- Breathing in the earthy smell of forest trails.
- Viewing wildlife photography – especially of bears and apes.
- Watching the assertive little hummingbirds that fight for space at the bird feeder.
What are your simple pleasures?
After viewing Seaspiracy and then the equally disturbing companion documentary Cowspiracy my heart felt bruised. I’m ashamed of what mankind is capable of doing to sentient beings.
In order to heal my heart and feel some sense of control, I return to these quotes.
Empowering words. And, I might add, no one is too old to make a difference either. Maybe that is the best time of all, when the distractions of youth have passed and there’s time for reflection. And action. Every day.
Thanks to Covid, I read 70 books this year. Yes, that’s astonishing, even to me. When the pandemic first hit I found I was unable to read, I couldn’t concentrate or focus, but as the weeks crawled by and my anxiety subsided I turned to books for comfort and pleasure. Don’t ask me what’s hot on Netflix or Crave, I haven’t a clue, but I do have some great books to recommend. And this was the year my tastes turned to non-fiction. I suspect my thirst for information was also a by-product of Covid.
Here are my favourites, divided into Young Adult, Nonfiction, Fiction, Currently Reading and books-I’m-really-looking-forward-to-reading. Let me know if you have some favourites for my 2021 list. Continue reading
My bookclub meets in a couple of weeks to select books for the coming year. This particular group gets a little competitive ~ at the August meeting we each give a pitch for the one or two titles we’d like to see on that year’s list. Then we vote and a list is compiled.
We each try to pitch outstanding books because at the June meeting we then vote for our favourite book of that year. The winner’s name and book title go into the illustrious ‘Bookclub Winners’ book. It’s quite an honour. 😉
Past favourites have included A Good House (Bonnie Burnard), A Gentleman in Moscow (Amor Towles), Plainsong (Kent Haruf), The Hearts Invisible Furies (John Boyne) and A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (Betty Smith).
So, I’d like to pitch a winner. Any recommendations? We’re a group of men and women. All genres are considered and they can be fiction or non-fiction. Thank you!
Eleanor Roosevelt famously said:
“Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
Oh dear. I realize how often in my daily interactions I slip into the category of discussing events and people, but I aspire to do better.
Journalist Steve Wasserman asks: “Does the ethos of acceleration prized by the internet diminish our capacity for deliberation and enfeeble our capacity for genuine reflection? Does the daily avalanche of information banish the space needed for actual wisdom?”
What would Eleanor Roosevelt think about the way social media bombards us with ‘bites’ of information, but no true analysis of events?
This is why I love bookclub. Coming together for the sole purpose of discussing the ideas presented in thoughtful books is so enriching. When the other group members share their insights I see that each person’s experience of the world allows them to interpret the story and its ideas differently. That in turn promotes clarity and then wisdom, and helps me become a more empathetic person. Books (and journals) are the antithesis of ‘fast news’, which, like ‘fast fashion’ has quantity but no quality.
One of the silver linings from the pandemic is that each of my three adult daughters has rediscovered books and reading. When the pandemic is declared over, I hope they will continue to read and, even more importantly, discuss the ideas found on the pages.
You’ve just met someone new. Or maybe it’s an alien from some far off galaxy. They have arrived unannounced at your home. For some strange reason you cannot speak. I don’t know why. It’s not important.
This person can only get to know you by watching you and seeing how you live. You can’t tell them about yourself, so they will surmise who you are by seeing what you do, where you go. They will learn your habits. They will see your home and belongings. Do you fold the corner of the page of your book or use a bookmark? Are the surfaces in your home clean and clutter free or do they tell the story of your day, your week. Maybe your month? What do you have hanging on your walls? How full is the laundry hamper? What is in your fridge?
Where will this person think you put most of your attention?
What will they determine are your priorities?
Really think on this.
Now, here’s the real question:
Do you like what they see?
The following are the wisest words I’ve heard since the start of this pandemic.
“Undoubtedly, the Covid 19 pandemic has introduced uncertainty into all echelons of daily life. But uncertainty need not inspire fear. Uncertainty is the precursor to innovation and innovation is the precursor to change.
We are offered two choices today: To fear uncertainty and to fear change, or to see this generational challenge as a generational opportunity.” (Andrew Weaver, former leader of the BC Green Party)
When the pandemic first hit I was amazed at how fast the grocery stores installed plexiglass partitions, curb-side pick up became the new norm for small shops and crosswalk lights became automated. No need to touch any surfaces. Yes, innovation quickly evolved from the uncertainty of the lurking coronavirus. These were small, quick fixes. Imagine if this same ingenuity was used on much larger issues. I’m thinking of Senior Care Homes for starters. Climate change to follow up.
This is our moment for leaders and institutions to revamp those systems that no longer serve us well. I’m going to imagine the day where we live in balance with the natural world and also live harmoniously with all of humanity in its many delightful hues and cultural variances. These could be the hidden opportunities the coronavirus offers us.
The coronavirus has taught us that it takes every single individual to do the right thing (self-isolation/social distancing) to curb the spread of this insidious disease. Going forward, can we take what we’ve learned from this pandemic to reverse the human impact on climate change?
It may be too late to wait for government and industries to pass the necessary laws but if each of us – every single person – changes our behaviour as abruptly as we have with this pandemic, I like to think it might be possible. Global warming may kill us at a slower rate than the coronavirus, but the predictions of climate catastrophes (droughts, deadly storms, melting polar caps) are frightening. For now the planet has been given a reprieve as there are far fewer planes in the sky and cars on the road (you can almost hear Mother Nature sigh with relief) but when this is all over, will we go right back to our old ways?
Frantic consumerism has been slowed as we stay home. Single-use plastic consumption may have risen temporarily as we focus on food safety, but If, at the end of this pandemic we all made positive personal changes perhaps we could stop choking the oceans with our plastic waste. We have seen how it takes everyone working together toward a common goal for it to be be successful. Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could turn that same focus toward our beloved planet? And if not for us, for our grandchildren and their children? The changes would be much less difficult to put in place. We could still gather in groups, hug(!), eat at restaurants, go out and play. Is it too much to hope for? It’s easy to educate ourselves on how, we know the why but do we have the will?
Fast Fashion definition: inexpensive clothing produced rapidly by mass-market retailers in response to the latest trends
We all know the thrill of spotting a bargain – that fabulous-looking shirt or jacket that is dirt cheap. Without thinking we reach for it, our brain mentally scanning our wardrobe for matching accessories. We check the price tag again (can it really be that cheap?) before we remember that no, it can’t be. Someone, somewhere is paying the price. We place it back on the rack.
“If these garments cost so little, chances are the factories where they’re made are filled with child labourers and the dyes used to make those bright jeans are flowing into their drinking water.” https://donegood.co/blog/cheap-clothes-cost-a-lot
But it can be hard to shop for ‘slow fashion’. First of all, how do we know which products are eco-friendly/ ethically make? And if they are, how can we afford them? Continue reading